That Does Put a Damper On Our Relationship!

There are several different levels of relationships, to name a few there's acquaintance, friends, best friends, just friends, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged, married ect. Today I'm going to be writing about the level "just friends" Have you ever heard someone say "We're just friends." I'm nearly positive that you have heard it... In fact you may have said it once before! 

'Just, what a terrible candle-snuffing word' as Johnny Depp (whom I love) says in the movie Finding Neverland whilst playing J.M. Barrie. C'est Vrai, it is true, we hear it often to belittle or dismiss something, "Oh it's just you." or "That's not a wolf its just a coyote!" We also hear it used as an adj. of things hidden. When one says 'just' often times they are trying to hide something!

Par example-
Barny: What is that?
Blake: What's what?
Barny: That? (points to blanket)
Blake: Nothing! it's just a blanket. See, just a blanket.
Barny: Why's it all wrinkled up? (lifts up blanket) Gasp! There is a box of cookies under here!

Therefore to hear the word 'just' in the phrase "We're just friends" seems terrible. For a long time I thought it was a horrible thing to say, "That's like saying he can't climb that mountain he's just a man, or that's not a diamond it's just a rock" says Johnny Depp (whom I love) in the movie Finding Neverland whilst playing J.M. Barrie. As if being friends, is insignificant, not a big deal, or of little importance. C'est Faux it is false... "We're just friends"... Just.

Then I began to look it as an adj. of things hidden and the phrase turns around completely. It turns into a perfect definition of that awful in between stage... You know that stage where a boy and a girl who were previously friends, start liking each other but their too shy to talk about a relationship. So gradually they start hanging out more, then people- as people do- start speculating, then asking question, and that horrible phrase rolls of the tongues of the guilty "We're just friends..." All innocence is lost. 

This level of friendship is most common among those who, "don't date." Because they "don't date" they are more likely to be shy in discussing and or considering a relationship with the person they are 'just friends' with. Therefore they become "just friends" so that they can date... without calling it dating. Heavy stuff, huh?

They have most likely, made a pact, an oath, or a promise to themselves not to date and therefore by staying "just friends" with the friend whom they like and likes them, they can hide their relationship, which is in fact more than friendship, as everyone, who isn't an idiot, knows.

I believe it is a stage for cowards. To be 'just friends' is to be below and above real friendly love, therefore it is not a good place to be in. If you are caught in this awful stage my advice to you would be to decide and make your choice. The longer you tack the word 'just' on your friendship the heavier the damper gets. Know truth and honesty and fess up to it.

Just.